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10 Tips fro Being More Truthful
Ten Tips for Being More Truthful
Barbara A. Lewis
Wife, mother, religious worker, national award-winning author and educator.
The Ten Tips
1. Make a commitment to tell the truth.
2. Tell someone about your commitment.
To commit to tell the truth is harder than it sounds. telling the truth makes life easier, but it may bring pain. To tell a lie is a sin, because lies are made in spite of people to spare yourself, even though later in life, that lie will eat at you. No matter how small it is. When you commit to tell the truth, then you may cause someone pain, even yourself, but eventually, it will have hurt less than a lie, and you will not have to live with a guilty conscience.
3. Think before you give a dishonest answer, explanation, sarcasm, or reason.
No matter how hard it may seem, to tell the truth and make someone cry is better than telling them a lie and feeding them false hope. According to the dictionary, a lie is a false statement made with deliberate intent to deceive, in other words, an intentional untruth. Even the dictionary knows that a lie is intentional. If anyone contradicts it, it is because they themselves have told so many lies that they have accustomed themselves to it. This means that if they tell a lie, it is very possible that they did not mean to. It was just out of their habit. As the picture states, "Tell a lie once and all your truths become questionable."
4. Be careful of when and how you use exaggeration, sarcasm, or irony.
Using exaggeration, sarcasm, and irony are all some type of lying. When we stretch the truth, it becomes a lie, not telling the whole truth is a lie of omission. Lies are everywhere, even in places we wouldn't think they would. I believe that the place with the most lies is in a church and the place with the least lies are in the prisons.
5. Be careful not to twist the truth or leave out any part of it.
A lie is defined as an intentional untruth, and to twist or omit the truth is to tell a lie. When in our first step we committed ourselves to only tell the truth, then we committed to tell the WHOLE truth. This means that we may not twist omit or in any way change the truth. Even if it may seem like the right thing, don't lie, because lies hurt more in the long run than the truth could ever hurt.
6.Don't indulge in little white lies.
"Saying "I'm fine," when you're not,
"It's nothing," when it's everything,
"I'm done," when you know you still wanna try"
Sometimes little white lies don't hurt and don't help anyone. But most of the time, the person who gets hurt the most, is yourself. White lies may seem little at first, but as time passes, they grow and grow and grow until they get so big that you can't control it. This then leads to the truth and can hurt more people than you would have originally hurt had you told the truth to begin with. Telling white lies hurts more people in the long run but it especially hurts you the most. Therefore it is best to avoid white lies as best you can no matter how small they may seem.
7. Watch out for silent lies.
Silent lies, I think are the worst kind of lies. When I was in middle school, I was bullied and because most people didn't say anything, it hurt me more than the bullying itself. Silent lies are when you omit something or if you are asked something and you just stay quiet. Sometimes these lies can help you though, such as in a criminal defense court, these lies are basically known as the fifth amendment.They are even included in the Miranda Rights. But to keep a silent lie to yourself to not get in trouble with the wrong people, then you are subliminally and unintentionally supporting the oppressor.
8. When you catch yourself lying, throw your mouth into reverse.
When you ever feel like lying, look into the future and see how much potential harm it could do. You may hurt yourself even worse than if you had told the truth, but you will also hurt the people around you. When you lie to a person, especially if they already know the truth, they might not end up having the same level of respect towards you anymore. This could potentially hurt you in the future because people might then not believe anything you say. Trust takes years to obtain and seconds to lose.
9. Talk to yourself.
10. Treat yourself when you tell the truth.
3. Think before you give a dishonest answer, explanation, sarcasm, or reason.No matter how hard it may seem, to tell the truth and make someone cry is better than telling them a lie and feeding them false hope. According to the dictionary, a lie is a false statement made with deliberate intent to deceive, in other words, an intentional untruth. Even the dictionary knows that a lie is intentional. If anyone contradicts it, it is because they themselves have told so many lies that they have accustomed themselves to it. This means that if they tell a lie, it is very possible that they did not mean to. It was just out of their habit. As the picture states, "Tell a lie once and all your truths become questionable."
4. Be careful of when and how you use exaggeration, sarcasm, or irony.Using exaggeration, sarcasm, and irony are all some type of lying. When we stretch the truth, it becomes a lie, not telling the whole truth is a lie of omission. Lies are everywhere, even in places we wouldn't think they would. I believe that the place with the most lies is in a church and the place with the least lies are in the prisons.
5. Be careful not to twist the truth or leave out any part of it.A lie is defined as an intentional untruth, and to twist or omit the truth is to tell a lie. When in our first step we committed ourselves to only tell the truth, then we committed to tell the WHOLE truth. This means that we may not twist omit or in any way change the truth. Even if it may seem like the right thing, don't lie, because lies hurt more in the long run than the truth could ever hurt.
6.Don't indulge in little white lies.
"It's nothing," when it's everything,
"I'm done," when you know you still wanna try"
Sometimes little white lies don't hurt and don't help anyone. But most of the time, the person who gets hurt the most, is yourself. White lies may seem little at first, but as time passes, they grow and grow and grow until they get so big that you can't control it. This then leads to the truth and can hurt more people than you would have originally hurt had you told the truth to begin with. Telling white lies hurts more people in the long run but it especially hurts you the most. Therefore it is best to avoid white lies as best you can no matter how small they may seem.
7. Watch out for silent lies.Silent lies, I think are the worst kind of lies. When I was in middle school, I was bullied and because most people didn't say anything, it hurt me more than the bullying itself. Silent lies are when you omit something or if you are asked something and you just stay quiet. Sometimes these lies can help you though, such as in a criminal defense court, these lies are basically known as the fifth amendment.They are even included in the Miranda Rights. But to keep a silent lie to yourself to not get in trouble with the wrong people, then you are subliminally and unintentionally supporting the oppressor.
8. When you catch yourself lying, throw your mouth into reverse.When you ever feel like lying, look into the future and see how much potential harm it could do. You may hurt yourself even worse than if you had told the truth, but you will also hurt the people around you. When you lie to a person, especially if they already know the truth, they might not end up having the same level of respect towards you anymore. This could potentially hurt you in the future because people might then not believe anything you say. Trust takes years to obtain and seconds to lose.
9. Talk to yourself.
10. Treat yourself when you tell the truth.
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